I am 40 and have only had a few short-term relationships. For a long time I believed I was content to be single and not have kids, but I recently met someone and wound up liking him a lot, and then quite suddenly it wasn't working and was over. Just like that. As fast as he came into my life, he left.

Since then I've found myself grieving, rather intensely, the possibilities I thought he represented to me - making a home with someone, having a partner, loving, being loved, being able to trust someone, being trusted. Even though I have accepted that children are not in the picture for me and in many ways this is a good thing, I am also grieving the children I won't have.

What are the good things about being alone, being self employed and not having children?

I can dedicate my time to my career or to other interests, like take a wine course on a Wednesday and indulge in long workouts, sometimes for over an hour at a time if I want to. My superpower is my time- it is a gift, which I can give to who or whatever I want to.  I can be the best aunt, sleep in, go for 2 hour hikes and listen to NoFX really loud in my car. I can have the best career doing what I love and work the hours I want to. I can do random acts for strangers and donate to charity to feel like I am giving back.

Being single and childless, you can do what you want, whatever you want, whenever you want. Case and point...my client offered my a Luxury condo to stay in on Mission Beach, San Diego- last minute. Like in 10 days last minute.

I said yes immediately and booked my flights.

Next I reached out to all my Radiance sisters:

https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/radianceretreat2017/?hl=en

as well as a few single, self employed, childless girlfriends to ask if anyone wanted to take a last minute holiday!  I would argue that as long as you foster friends, care about others, and have people who care about you, you are never "alone.  I am so excited my sister Becky from Dallas, Texas was available...most likely because she too, being self employed and childless can also say yes to a last minute holiday! YAY! You can check out Becky here- She is a fellow fitness entrepreneur who is crushing it! https://www.instagram.com/bkinetic/?hl=en

So, to all my single and childless sisters.. remember that marriage is not a guarantee of security. LIVE your life, set out your goals, work towards attaining them and always be fabulous. Say yes more than you say no. Don't write yourself off. You have to believe that the best is yet to come and your best self has yet to be realized.

If I meet someone who wants to kick ass with me along the way , then great. He is more than welcome to accompany me on this ride.  Life is sometimes hard, and lonely, and awful. Life is sometimes sweet, and amazing, and beautiful. What adventures are coming? Who will I meet next?

**PS for sure I am going to tour the  Miramar Naval Air Station...TOP GUN ANYONE???

http://www.miramar.marines.mil

Hit reply and let me know if you too are single, childless and want to find your tribe!

xDGH Fitbabe