Hey everyone. Today over here at Deanna Harder Fitness, I am going to get a little freaky if I may. 

Let's talk about SEX!

 If you follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/deanna.harder.5# you may have noticed I have talking all about #VaginaKUNGFU! I have been diving deep into all things vagina love and I am learning so much from the amazing Kim Anami. http://kimanami.com/vaginal-kung-fu/   She is teaching me to own my feminine sexual power!  

"When your vagina is activated, meaning you are connected to it, you own it and it is integrated into your body and being, you are lit up. ⠀ You're lit!" You have access to your powerful, creative, life-force sexual energy and you can manifest your desires out into the world. ⠀

They don't call it "pro-creative" energy for nothing! "

For a long time ( like 5 years....5 fucking YEARS!!!) I was not in touch with my sexual side. I was obsessed with body perfection and didn't have any space to date or fuck men. I instead spent all my time training and eating to look a certain way, which in fact made me feel very unsexy. I hated how I looked in the mirror, and the thought of any man finding me desirable was inconceivable. I was leaner than ever, and felt unfuckable. It has only been since August that I have started to feel sexier again. I did some work on myself. I worked with an Endocrinologist who helped me optimize my hormones, naturally. I have put on body fat, gained muscle, and healed my relationship with food and exercise. My self confidence is high, therefore I radiate sexual desire. Confidence is sexy, insecurity not so much. Many of my clients who have gained weight, or have had babies, or are going through peri-menopause, or menopause are finding it harder and harder to enjoy sex because they no longer love their bodies. The media still praises tiny, slight, women with perfect breasts and flat stomachs as the most desired. But that shit isn't reality. WE ARE BUMPY, CURVY, SOFT, ROUND, AND JIGGLY! The truth is, if you love yourself, you can love sex right NOW! You are fuckable right now. You do not have to lose 20lb to be sexy. You can radiate sexuality right now if you start to connect with your body. Your body is beautiful right now, and if you love yourself, you will want to eat better, exercise and embrace your sexual desires. You and your spouse will thank-you. Sex will give you energy. Sex will empower you, it will make you walk taller, you will show up happier, more relaxed and with confidence.

How can we love sex, even if we may not love how we look??

1. OWN IT! Stand in the mirror and rock that body. Look at your curves. Touch yourself. Run your hands over your skin and feel how beautiful you are. Connect with yourself. You will get turned on IMMEDIATELY!

2. Get comfortable naked with the lights on in bed with your partner. Again, OWN IT. Rock it.Men do not care if you have a little extra body fat, in fact, most men tell me they love a woman with a little more thickness. Let go, let him see you, let him touch you and enjoy you. No man in his right mind will be turned off by a confident, sexually open women.

3. If you do not have a partner, or even if you do...start to touch yourself. Commit to self pleasure for 30 days. Get a vibrator, or begin to touch yourself, put your fingers inside yourself and explore! Do not feel embarrassed or ashamed. Your body is your own to explore. If you discover what makes you turned on, you will be able to direct your partner! He/she will love that.

Here are some of Kim Anami's tips on how to achieve an amazing organsm:

1) Every woman, every orgasm. Yes, vaginal—G-Spot, cervical—or nipple orgasms are available to every woman, everywhere. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

2) One is never enough. The more the merrier! A few orgasms in a session leave a woman feeling truly satisfied. One is just an appetizer. ⠀ 3) An orgasm a day keeps FUKME (Females Utter freaking out about absolutely nothing due to lack of phallic shapes, near, in or around their vaginas, leading to Kataclysmic, psychopathic Moments of intense and troubling repressed sExual tension) away. ⠀ 4) Go deep. The good stuff is in the vagina. The G-Spot and cervix are much deeper and more profound and even spiritual releases for a woman. ⠀ 5) Let it go. All orgasms are attained through surrender, especially the deeper, life-changing orgasms of the vagina. 
Watch the video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XwPVkfphC3c⠀ ⠀

So, ok, you do all the above and you still are not feeling sexy?  

WELL THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! If you are not able to relax and feel better about yourself, YOU NEED TO CHANGE IT. YOU NEED TO DO THE UNDERLYING WORK. Own it OR CHANGE IT! Take action. Action over anxiety. Take responsibility and acknowledge what you are not happy with. Or stop fucking complaining. Hire a trainer and get to the gym 3 days a week. Take a sexy salsa class. Start walking more. Practice self care by getting to bed earlier, take hot baths and meditate. Start to track your food intake and aim to get in a protein and veggie at each meal. Drink more water. Buy clothing that is flattering and makes you feel sexy. Get a new hair cut and flaunt your unique style. Commit and decide that where you are now is not where you want to be. Take action and just go after that confidence now. Once you make that appointment you will start to feel better immediately.

#wellfuckedwoman

#orgasm

#vaginaltruth

 #lovesexdesire #bodycondfidence #selfesteem #selflove

** Trigger warning. I am writing from my personal experience. I am not a sex expert. If you have experienced any sort of sexual trauma or are have deeper issues than I can help you with, please do not take this advice! This is a fun, flirty blog written to inspire those who may need a pick me up in their sex lives. I feel this information is in my heart to share, therefore I am qualified. The world needs you to love yourself. You deserve it  In case you didn't know this, you're pretty fucking special, you are AMAZING.